The end of a relationship is always difficult. It feels like the world has turned against you. I wasn’t good enough. What if I did this. If only I did more of that. I failed. As we all do, I turned to the internet to find some quotes to help me move forward. However, all I could find were quotes still focused on the past, romanticizing the relationship. Today, we’re changing the narrative. Here are 10 quotes about failure in love to help you move forward.
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It is painful to let go, but it is harder to hold on.
So many people I know go through this. Holding on to a relationship longer than they need to be. Desperate to prove to the world and themselves that it can work. Overextending themselves. Trying to keep their partner happy at their own expense. It’s exhausting.
At some point, you must look at yourself to understand your choice to stay. Are you afraid of being alone? Afraid of being called a failure due to the relationship ending. Once you confront these core fears, then you can begin to choose yourself, letting go of what is done.
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I firmly believe this saying. There have been a couple of times where I have been bitter post-breakup. How could they do this to me? My life is over. A bit overdramatic, I know. When I looked back on the relationship, I only saw the negative things. The day they left. How I felt in that moment. The anger consumed me.
It wasn’t until time passed that I realized that I completely forgot about the wonderful memories that I had made throughout the relationship. The negativity at the end doesn’t cancel out the months of amazing memories.
Now, instead of cursing them. I simply thank them for the good memories and move on with my life.
Sometimes love is not enough.
Two people can love each other and still fail in a relationship. I know it sounds completely unreasonable, but I believe this to be the truth. Love isn’t always enough.
There are some incompatibilities that love cannot conquer. Different sex drives. Love languages. Attachment styles. The list is endless. In these situations, the relationship failing isn’t anyone’s fault. It’s simply an unfortunate situation.
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I know when to stop. I know when to let things go. I know when to move on. I know how to adjust. But “I know” is different from “I can.”
I am extremely guilty of this. My head says one thing and my heart says another. It’s the most frustrating thing in the world. What I’ve come to realize is that the heart simply takes a bit longer to catch up. There is no point trying to rationalize how you should feel. All you can do is embrace whatever feelings come up.
When one door closes, another opens.
This is one of the more difficult truths to accept. There’s always the saying ‘There’s always more fish in the sea’. However, when a relationship fails, all you want is that one fish. The one that got away. You’re completely blind to all the other potential fish.
Time is your friend. I know it probably seems like no one will ever understand you the way they did. That’s probably true. Your love for a person is always unique. However, it doesn’t mean that someone else won’t come into your life meeting your needs in a different, yet better way. You just have to be willing to give them a chance.
You should be thankful for the wrong relationships. They may break you but teach you, change you, strengthen you and prepare you for the right one.
When a relationship ends, there is a lot of time to reflect. Partners that seemed so perfect start to lose that glow. The incompatibilities become clear as day. Most importantly, you start to discover some new things about yourself.
What you loved about the relationship. The way they treated your family. How they dressed. You also realize what you hated about the relationship. The way they snapped at you. How distant they could be at times. It opens your eyes to the patterns you wouldn’t want to repeat in the next relationship. For that, you should be thankful.
I was enough. I am enough. I always will be enough
During a breakup, it’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-pity. I’m not worth it. I will never be in a good relationship. I’m better off alone. The cycle of negativity is endless.
However, it’s important to be a friend to yourself right now. Your brain values your voice so much. Instead of using it to put yourself down, you must be kind to yourself. Tell yourself, you are enough because it’s the truth. You. Are. Enough.
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Feeling your emotions during a breakup is necessary
I tried to avoid this for so long. I bottled up my emotions and buried them so deep inside, hoping they would go away eventually. Spoiler, they did not. It only festered, infecting other parts of my life.
If you don’t let your emotions out, they will find a way. I started becoming angry with friends, shouting over the tiniest thing. It wasn’t until one day; a friend took me in his arms and told me to let it out. Finally, all those tears I had held back for so long came gushing out. I never knew how much I needed it until it was happening. I’m convinced that I would have never moved on until I confronted those emotions.
I will become the source of my own happiness
This is especially important if you were co-dependent in the relationship. Guilty as charged. At the time, I didn’t even think I was being co-dependent. It wasn’t until I started working on my anxious attachment style that I realized that I had made my partner the sole source of my happiness.
The key to overcoming this is to invest in yourself. Once I started doing the things I loved, my self-confidence rose and I started finding happiness in myself. I truly believe that the key to moving forward is taking all the love that you had for them and putting back on yourself.
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Relapsing months after a breakup is normal. When this happened to me, I felt immense guilt. I shouldn’t be feeling this way. It’s been so long. How am I not over this? This only made the situation worse as I spiralled down hard.
Through a lot of self-reflection, I realized that just because the feelings come back, it didn’t mean that all progress is lost. So next time you feel bad about the love failure that happened a while ago, give yourself a break.
Conclusion
What do you think of these quotes about failure in love? Did any of them resonate with you? What has helped you the most in moving forward? Let me know in the comments below, I’m curious!
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I can relate to this post. Unfortunately 6 yrs ago, my 15 yr marriage ended. At the time I was devastated and felt like I was not enough etc. But good friends, self care and counselling helped me bounce back, regain my self worth and my life is now better than I ever could have imagined. Loosing at love is never easy, but it is by picking ourselves up and learning to love ourselves more, that we can eventually find love again.